Dear Diary: Depression, therapists, and homework

OK, I decided it’s time to start including a bit more of myself into this blog. So this post isn’t about books (I mean, there will probably be mention of books because books = life, but still…) but instead a bit of a conversation between friends, eh?

I was seeing a therapist to help with my depression back in the fall, but then I got the first bill and had a bit of sticker shock ($199 per visit!?!?!) so I quit seeing her. I had a rough time over the holidays and into the new year, so I got back with my doctor and got back on an anti-depressant, and she encouraged me to start seeing my therapist, Susan, again.

I told Susan about how I’d started this blog since seeing her last, and boy was she proud of me. It got me thinking that, you know, I’m pretty proud of me too. I’ve started a lot of blogs, like I’ve started a lot of projects (crafts, journals, writing books…) and I usually come in hot and then fizzle out fairly quickly. I’m really proud that I’ve kept up with this blog for over 3 months. I started Nov 8, so yesterday was my 3 month blogiversary. 🙂

Susan and I agreed that for the next 90 days, we’re working on two things: my self-confidence, and what I call “adulting.” My homework until my next session is to:

  • Take a 20 minute walk 3x/week
  • “Adult” for 20 minutes 3x/week (spend 20 minutes doing laundry, dishes, cleaning the bathroom…)
  • Keep track and figure out what my dominant thought is – what is the thing I tell myself most often?

That dominant thought thing is really tripping me up. I’ve been paying more attention that that little voice in my head, and so far… it mostly just sings a lot, LOL. I must have had about 3 or 4 different songs stuck in my head so far this morning. Maybe that’s because today is a good day? I just know that voice is a real jerk sometimes. Susan asks me hard questions like “Where does that voice come from? Is it your voice, or someone else’s?” She also asks things like “What motivates you?” Boy, I do not know the answers to these questions. She also assures me I’m really funny, but my humor is of the self-deprecating variety and I think owes a lot to tone and timing, so it’s hard to show you how funny I am in a blog post. 😉

Aaaaanyway. She encouraged me to share some about me and my life in my blog, instead of just many many book reviews, so here we are. Now I need to think of something to call these little nuggets of personal insight. My son James (age 3) just asked me “What are you going to build?” I told him it’s a blog. “But, it’s not a house! You have to start over. You have to start over right now. Come onnnn, start over.” Haha, that’s so funny he chimes in with that just when I’m thinking what to call these type of posts. (And no, James, I’m not starting over!) Hmm… I think we’ll just go simple:


3 thoughts on “Dear Diary: Depression, therapists, and homework

  1. Thank you for trusting us with your thoughts and your life. That took courage. I'm glad to hear that you are seeing your therapist again, even though it is very expensive. Also, thank you for posting your plan. I may go ahead and steal that, since they are all things I also need to work on quite a bit. If you ever need to have a gab/bitch/drinks sesh, let me know. Life is hard.


  2. Taking care of yourself is the most important thing…and the hardest to do. And having an outlet is a great thing so congrats on reaching 3 months! I read because it takes me places, but I have my own health issues and can't as much as I'd like. So I'll be thinking of you and hoping you are able to enjoy your own bookish escapes, that you continue to enjoy blogging, and that each week will be easier than the last.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.